Let's explore why your toddler👶 has an affinity for being held and carried often, and discover effective ways to manage their clinginess.
What is toddler clinginess?
Toddler clinginess👩👦 often involves persistent requests to be picked up ("Up!") and a firm attachment to a parent's side or leg. This behavior typically emerges around the age of 1 and continues throughout the toddler years.
This phase of clinginess goes beyond the usual desire for a lift when your little one is tired🥱. It might even appear as though your recently mobile toddler has developed a newfound aversion to walking on her own!
Signs of a clingy toddler
Toddlers often display clinginess through a frequent need for holding or carrying, crying😭 when separated, throwing tantrums when moved away from your side, constantly checking for your presence, and resisting bedtime routines💤 due to their strong attachment and desire for reassurance and closeness, highlighting their need for a sense of security and comfort from your companionship.
Tips for handling toddler clinginess
🧸Engaging Distractions
To help your clingy toddler transition to more independent walking, turn your walks into engaging and interactive experiences. Play games that involve spotting interesting objects or animals along the way. Point out fascinating sights, like a squirrel carrying a nut or colorful flowers. Singing songs together can also make the walking process more enjoyable and distract from the desire to be carried.
🧸Empathetic Reassurance
Understand that your toddler's clinginess is rooted in their need for security and comfort. During this phase, it's important to offer reassurance and empathy. Let your little one know that you understand their feelings of anxiety or uncertainty. Verbalize your support by saying things like, "I know you like being close to mommy/daddy, and that's okay. I'm here with you, and we'll have fun together."
🧸Little Helper Role
Toddlers often love to feel involved and helpful. Capitalize on this by giving them a role during outings. Ask them to be your little assistant, holding a bag or carrying a small item like a shopping list. You can even let them wear a backpack, making them feel like a big kid with responsibilities. This sense of importance can gradually shift their focus away from clinginess.
🧸Gradual Independence
Ease your toddler into more independent exploration by starting with gradual steps. After putting them down, stand nearby for a while to provide a sense of security. As they become more comfortable, slowly increase the distance between you and your toddler. This approach helps them understand that they can explore while knowing you're still there for them. Over time, they'll gain confidence and be more willing to venture further on their own.